Caring and Spending Time
Thinking about what will happen to a person’s body after they die can be something that people find difficult to think about. Furthermore, deciding whether you would like to spend time with someone after they have died can be daunting.
We would suggest that you do what feels natural to you, and try not to be too influenced by what other people feel you should do. It is entirely possible that you may change your mind about what you want during the funeral planning process and there are very few decisions that need to be made instantly.
Transfer into our care
When you contact us, we will discuss with you when and how you would like someone to be brought into out care. Whilst many opt for the person to be brought into our care from home immediately, you may choose to have the person who has died to remain with you.
You may also wish for the person to be brought to Full Circle Funerals for washing and dressing, and then be returned to your home prior to the funeral service. Whatever you choose, please contact us so we can provide support as and when you may need it.
Much of how we care for people who have died is similar to how we care for ourselves during life. This includes applying moisturizing cream, washing, shaving, applying make-up and perfume and such like.
We can use your own products, or we can provide them and will discuss with you what you would like – and how much involvement you would like to have about these decisions.
You may wish for the person who has died to be dressed in their own clothing, in comfortable clothes, full suit or their favourite outfit.
Alternatively you may wish for them to remain in the clothes they died in or we could provide a gown.
If you would like to have personal items in the coffin with the person who has died, please advise us. This could be things like a letter or photograph, or other items. If you would like these items to remain in the coffin when it is closed we will be able to advise you as to what items would be suitable. Alternatively, you might like these items returned to you. In which case please let us know and we will arrange this for you.
How can I be involved?
We believe it is important you know that you can be involved in washing and dressing the person that has died if it is what you want. Some people find this meaningful, especially if they were providing personal care for the person towards the end of their life.
Culture and religion
We understand that there are some cultures where specific rituals must be honoured (maybe by specific members of the community or by a specific gender). Full Circle Funerals will facilitate, where possible, any cultural needs where they are made known.
Care after death
There are a number of actions that can be taken to change the way a person looks after they have died. These range from applying make-up or positioning someone a certain way, to more invasive procedures such as embalming. We will not assume that you want us to intervene in any way, but will discuss the options available with you so that you can make a decision which is right for you and the person that has died.
Spending time together
Sometimes seeing the person after they have died is very important to family and friends, but not everyone wishes to do this.
If you, or family and friends, would like to spend time with the person we have private and peaceful visiting rooms where this is possible. If you would like a member of the Full Circle staff team to stay with you for support, this is something we are happy to do and you will not be rushed when visiting the person that has died.
If you choose to spend time with the person that has died and would like to have a few personal effects in the visiting room or some music playing, please let us know and we will organise this for you.